Thursday, March 29, 2012

How to Name Your Baby

Or what should be more aptly titled


How the Hell do I Name My Baby????

Finally at 20 weeks, we've just said SCREW IT.

The dams have burst and we're just going for it.

WE'RE GOING ALL OUT.

Decorating the nursery?  Totally started.

Talking about the baby like it's actually going to be here in August?  The 'ifs' just magically disappeared from our vocabulary.  We just say WHEN the baby comes now.

Buying baby items?  Ok to be honest I still haven't bought a damn thing. Not. A. Thing.  But since we've rearranged our nursery and guest rooms, the next step is to BUY A CRIB.  So, moving along in the right direction...must buy crib soon.

NAMING OUR BABY?...Fuck.

I thought this part would be so easy.

It seems that over the last year and a half as getting pregnant seemed farther and farther away NAMING the future baby became very unimportant and moved to the very very back of my mind and I've put basically no thought into this part of the pregnancy process in a very long time.

And I've discovered I get completely overwhelmed when it comes to all things baby.

Decorating a nursery? so overwhelmed with choices and ideas that I just stopped.  Picking out baby names? oh the choices! I always thought this would be so much fun!

Turns out it's kind of not.

I'm so overwhelmed with the thought of giving this little person their name FOR LIFE.

What if they don't like their name?!

Or what if everyone else in 2012 decides to name their kid the same thing and they have...god forbid, a COMMON name?!

I've always had a few names that I've been rather fond of but as I sat down and actually tried to NAME MY BABY I suddenly didn't like any of my names!

And sadly 3 of the names that I DO like are on the Top 10 Baby Names of 2011.  Stupid Twilight has ruined Isabella!!!

So now I'm down to like one name.

I'm supposed to come up with 5.  Ok 10 actually, 5 boys and 5 girls.

We even sat down and talked baby names the other day, decided on a girl name that we both like, looked it up in a baby book and get this....

wait for it...


my favorite girl name means....
























UGLY-HEADED.






I almost cried.

Stupid baby name book just ruined our girl baby name!

Shit.

It seems like everyone else has such an easy time with this.  In fact it seems that MORE PEOPLE THAN NOT have their kid named after their 20 week scan!

I recognize that I have 5 more months to figure this out.

But I don't want to put it off until the very last minute.

I know some people who didn't name their kid until she was 3 months old.  Until then they just called her baby girl.

I don't want to be one of THOSE people.

To everyone who named your baby in utero already, how did you name your babies????

23 comments:

  1. ba ha ha ha

    for years I have been throwing random names at Chippie waiting to see which one he like and fortunately he liked both girls names I liked with our favourite surprisingly meaning rebellious which we loved!

    Boys names were more difficult but since I chose the girls I said he could choose the boys. I had a note book and every time he said a name or I saw one I wrote it down. We couldn't really come up with a boys so was a bit of a relief to have a girl. I didn't care what anyone else thought either!!

    At about 20w I totally had a melt down of all the things I needed to get but started doing it one bit at a time. And now I am on track. Internet shopping is my friend. Don't stress!!!!

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  2. Yeah...I don't envy you for that. I have anxiety over this already. I picked Ethan as like a 3rd grader in 1986 mmkay, and now look what happened! Then I had to think of a completely novel boys name idea and one celeb named her baby that. How did she read my mind?! The name doesn't even exist!

    I think you just have to have many to pull from like you said and then wait and see what your baby feels like when he/she comes.

    Just make sure it's meaningful and close to your heart and you can't go wrong.

    I am also excellent at picking names for other people, so if you give me a letter or a type (old fashioned, new age, whatever) I'll work on that for ya. ;)

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  3. Ha! Now you know how I felt a few weeks back when I posted about baby names :) It's tougher than you think. We had five names we agreed on for a list. We have since crossed off three and I don't love the two that are left. Starting over again haha! Check out movie credits, baby names sites and The Bump has a Baby Names board. Good luck!

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  4. It always freaks me out when people have a name before the baby is born. I'm all for being prepared with a few to pick from, but I like the idea of meeting my baby first to see which name fits best. I remember going to a baby shower where my friend had named her unborn son Benjamin, and everything she got had that name painted or embroidered on it. I thought, what on earth will she do if he comes out and looks nothing like a Benjamin. I guess she's stuck!

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  5. We haven't even come close to picking out a name. Our plan is to take a list of our favorites with us to the hospital and name her after we meet her.

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  6. We are trying to come up with a few names we like, so we can choose when we know the personality of the babies. It is IMPOSSIBLE to find boys names. There are so many girls names that I like, but not so many boys names (that aren't already taken). We also potentially have two children to name at the same time, so we have to come up with 4 names just in case, and that is crazy. CRAZY! I don't know, I doubt it's easy for anyone, really.

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  7. Haha oh no! I hope you're able to settle on names. Even though we don't have children yet, we have our first boy and girl name picked out. It took us years to decide on them but I'm certain we'll use them! After that, we're screwed!

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  8. As soon as we find out we're pregnant, the conversation starts. Almost daily, one of us is like, "what about the name..." We don't know if it'll be a boy or a girl yet, but we have some ideas. When we named Sadie we had it narrowed down to 3 and then one day we just kind of went, "well, which is your favorite?" And luckily we both liked the same one! But then...Sadie is such a perfect name! And because it's so perfect, we're a little intimidated this time around!

    Good luck!!

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  9. Bear almost went home without a name and we were there for almost 6 days. It's ok, you will come up with something!

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  10. And Nick is actually McKenzie :)

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  11. Hahahaha!!! Ugly headed?!?! Really? I needed a good laugh and that's hilarious!

    Its funny so many say they have girl names, if we're having a girl we're screwed. Every name we've ever liked is WAY overused right now. But we have 2 boy names that we love. One is part of my maiden name so its special, the other is a name we like that is a family name on both sides.

    Good luck girl!

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  12. Have you seen The Baby Name Wizard? It's a very clever and interesting book that I really enjoyed while trying to decide on names for my kiddos. She also has a website: babynamewizard.com It's fun to look at trends and take that into consideration when choosing a name.

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  13. Just name it Moxie CrimeFighter or Zolten Penn and call it a day. I love Penn Jillette.

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  14. Curiosity got the best of me to I looked up which girl name means ugly-headed. I LOVE that name! It's been one of my favorites for a long, long time. It was on my list with all 3 kids and all 3 times, my hubster axed it. If your husband agrees, go for it! (ha, I'm a lot of help!).

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  15. Haven't started this process, but I think I will soon because it's going to take some time. And if all goes well I will have 2 to name! I'm so SOOO happy you are finally fully accepting this pregnancy...it's just wonderful!

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  16. Just rolled over here from Many Many Moons and have to say this is a discussion that never goes away. BEFORE your pregnant you think "I can't wait to pick out a name for my baby" and then you have to pick out a name for your baby and you're all "fuck me sideways, I have to name a human being AND agree with my husband about it?"

    yeah.

    I'm at 31 weeks now and this baby has no name in site. So rest assured that there is plenty of time (or not but I'm just saying that to make myself feel better). In case you haven't discovered it I spend about...oh, three hours a day, on this site: www.nameberry.com Its the best.

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  17. I loved Kennedy for a girl (or really for a boy) I just loved it - but then I found out its meaning and it ruined it for me...that and my MIL telling me it would inevitably be shortened to Kenny...which makes me think of that poor kid on SouthPark, and well it just was done.

    I feel your pain. We picked a name for a boy (and we're still solid on that one) but my girl name I waver on, a lot. I love the name, but I keep thinking that maybe there is a BETTER name out there. One that is more perfect and so I can't help but look.

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  18. This post makes me laugh. I'm a teacher so I feel like that right there eliminates so many names. When they are tied to a prior student, especially if it wasn't a good experience...it won't work. D and I had easily decided on a boys name. But, girls...totally different. He HATED every name I mentioned. After weeks of going back and forth after we were told it was a girl, I finally told him to make a list and I would decide from there. I liked Avery at the beginning but it wasn't my favorite. After a few weeks, paired with her middle name, I was in love. Now I can't imagine her not having it.

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  19. This post makes me laugh. I'm a teacher so I feel like that right there eliminates so many names. When they are tied to a prior student, especially if it wasn't a good experience...it won't work. D and I had easily decided on a boys name. But, girls...totally different. He HATED every name I mentioned. After weeks of going back and forth after we were told it was a girl, I finally told him to make a list and I would decide from there. I liked Avery at the beginning but it wasn't my favorite. After a few weeks, paired with her middle name, I was in love. Now I can't imagine her not having it.

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  20. I don't have any names figured out, you are so right it is so hard!

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  21. Was your name Kennedy? Because I'm obsessed with that name (definitely not popping a kid out anytime soon) but I love it still even if it means ugly head!

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  22. If it helps...if stupid twilight movies hadnt ruined it, lizzie was going to be izzy so we would have wrecked it for you anyway! Total nightmare trying to pick them. We just said different ones out loud a lot. And I wanted to make sure the initials did not spell something rude!

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  23. If it helps...if stupid twilight movies hadnt ruined it, lizzie was going to be izzy so we would have wrecked it for you anyway! Total nightmare trying to pick them. We just said different ones out loud a lot. And I wanted to make sure the initials did not spell something rude!

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