It seems nearly everyone in my blogroll, both fertile and infertile are either:
Pregnant with Baby #2,
Trying to get pregnant with Baby #2 or
Talking about trying to get pregnant with Baby #2.
Is there something in the air?
Or do I just happen to only follow bloggers who gave birth roughly a year ago and the logical next step once your baby hits a year is to get pregnant again?
I fall somewhere in between the last two categories. We haven't been using any protection but I have yet to have a postpartum period. That means theoretically we're trying because I could ovulate at any time but really I'm pretty sure I'm not ovulating so it's more talking about trying!
I must admit, the fact that I have yet to have a period is starting to make me anxious.
I know people who didn't start ovulating again until 15 months, 18 months, 2 years or until they fully weaned.
I GET IT. Some people, NORMAL PEOPLE even, don't get their fertility back right away.
I shouldn't worry yet.
It's the fact that I have an anovulatory disorder that has me worried. Am I already all cysty?! Am I not going to ovulate at all? Or am I just one of those people who's not going to ovulate until I've weaned?
THERE'S NO WAY TO KNOW. And short of weaning there's not a lot I can do about it.
If I'm being really honest with myself it makes the most sense to wait until after we get back from London which will be the end of December to worry about this. In fact we've decided to not DO anything (no temping, no OPKs, no Vitex, etc etc) until after the New Year.
Should we fall pregnant on our own between now and then? So be it, obviously that would be awesome. BUT I DON'T REALLY WANT TO BE PREGNANT ON A 10 HOUR FLIGHT WITH A TODDLER.
And...I want the wee ones to have a little bit bigger age gap than 2 years. Somewhere around 2.5 years would be ideal. Which means waiting another 6 months or so.
All that being said, I can't help it, I've started worrying. And obsessing.
ISN'T THERE SOMETHING I CAN PEE ON???
At least I know I'm not alone, basically ALL OF YOU have started obsessing again too.
So let's discuss, if you had the power to choose, what is the ideal age gap between your kiddos?
My post earlier this week about rules somehow turned into a post about feeding my baby. I didn't realize that this was really where my struggles with discipline lie.
You guys offered some sound advice so I wanted to elaborate and clarify a bit and then ask for more advice!
First, Jett's diet is almost stricly fruit, veggies and proteins. He eats very little grain, very little dairy and next to no processed food. His "crap" snack that I let him have is Cheerios and he only gets them for car rides.
He loves fruit and he loves veggies but he does NOT love meat.
How do two meat loving parents end up with a VEGETARIAN???
Such a hippy already...good thing we live in San Francisco, he fits right in.
Second, he's only in the 18th percentile for his weight, so I do worry a bit more about him eating than I would if he weighed more AND he's slightly anemic...perhaps that's because he WON'T EAT MEAT.
Anyway, my point is that I LOVE the idea of plopping the kid down in the high chair, giving him some food and then that's it. He eats or he doesn't, his choice. LOVE THAT. Like, honestly, it appeals to the laziness in me and this is what I WANT to do.
BUT, I got kind of a stern...not reprimand, but warning? that we needed to get Jett's iron levels up by his 15 month appointment or we were going to start talking supplements. So, handing the kid a plate of food only to have him eat just the veggies followed by a snack of fruit later in the day then some more veggies for the next meal means he's not eating meat, thus not getting iron. Because really the only way he'll eat the meat is if someone feeds him, at which point he HAPPILY eats the meat but he won't eat it on his own.
I've done other things like eggs, spinach and hummus for iron but let's face it, red meat is the easiest.
After my last post in which ALL OF YOU told me that you let your kid decide how much they want to eat ONLY IN THEIR HIGHCHAIR I decided I would give it a go.
What resulted is that my baby has had nothing but fruit, veggies and some Cheerios since Tuesday. Last night he blatantly refused to eat ANYTHING except two bites of broccoli. I even tried to resort to my old ways of hand feeding him after he was out of the chair but even that was refused.
I thought he would be crazy hungry this morning, but NOPE, he only ate half his breakfast.
So of course I worry, it's like part of the job description of MOM.
This is not the first time Baby Jett has gone on a hunger strike. He basically ate nothing but fruit for 2 months just before he turned 1. Ultimately I had to just let it happen and he went back to eating on his own. But that time I wasn't concerned with him being anemic!
Luckily he's still nursing so I know he's getting SOME nutrients but guess what breastmilk does not provide?
Oh that's right, IRON!!!
So, now that you all know the WHOLE story, do you have the same advice? Put him in the high chair, give him food and don't worry about it???
I'm trying to be all relaxed and chill about the whole thing, but in reality I'm starting to dread meal times. So NOT how I wanted to approach food/meals as a parent.