I will never know if my less than simple journey to motherhood has tainted my desire to get ready for this baby or if this is just me and what would have happened even if I had fallen pregnant our first month of trying.
But I can't foresee myself buying much more than I already have for baby.
I bought a crib...I know I need a stroller/car seat just in case we have to have this baby in the hospital...I bought some onesies...and I want a moby wrap or some sort of baby carrier. But other than those few items I think I'm done.
I don't want to register because I have no idea what I will need until after baby is here, so why do I need it now?
I'm not necessary someone who enjoys simplicity, in fact normally I like "stuff", I like to have things just because they are pretty and not necessarily because they are functional. In fact I love unnecessary shit.
I decorate with completely useless knick knacks.
I buy dressy clothes even if I have no occasion to wear them.
I love pretty crap.
But when it comes to baby, I think I might be all about simplicity.
To me, it seems that 100 years ago, maybe even 50 years ago you didn't NEED anything to have a baby. You just had the baby and baby used the same things as you.
Why do babies now need so much crap?
I plan on breastfeeding exclusively, so I'm not buying bottles.
I plan on co-sleeping so I don't need an extra baby sleeper to put near our bed.
I plan on carrying baby with me the majority of places I go, so I'll get myself moby wrap/sling.
I plan on cloth diapering, but everyone says it's a bit of a trial and error, so I don't see why I can't use disposables for the first week or two while we adjust to having a baby and then dive into cloth diapers.
I know the kid needs some clothes, but...does it really? What if we all just hang out naked for the first week while we figure things out? Who's that going to hurt? And THEN we will know if baby is a boy or girl and I can go all out making the kid fancy. But why does that need to happen pre-baby?
Toys? Newborns can't hardly see their hands, let alone use them, this can wait.
Pacifier? Yes, I might want one, but apparently the first 10-14 days it's super important to not let baby latch onto anything besides your boob so that you can get your milk supply going. Pacifiers can wait.
Pump? I don't plan on pumping...at all. And again with the 10-14 days, you're also not supposed to pump and only use baby to get your supply going.
Burp clothes and receiving blankets? Yes, I'll probably pick up a few of these just so I have some, but again, I'd rather wait until after baby is born so I can buy colors other than green and gray.
I'm sure I'm missing something, but I don't know what.
Am I making this too simple? Not planning enough?
I'm aware that I've never had a baby and HAVE NO IDEA what to expect, but women have been doing this for thousands of years with NOTHING but our boobs...I'm embracing the primal instincts that ARE pregnancy and motherhood and it's not about the stuff.
But in case I'm missing some biggies, new mommies, what was ABSOLUTELY necessary in the first week or two of babies life?