Before this whole thing called parenthood entered my life, when I was still in the infertile trenches longing for a baby more than I'd ever longed for anything before, I found the idea of comparing your kid to other kids ridiculous. Same goes for comparing your style of parenting to another.
But then I had a baby.
And for the first time I UNDERSTAND.
I find that Baby Jett sleeps ALL THE TIME and is really boring, so when he's awake for those few hours I really feel like I'm supposed to DO something with him, you know? Like...interact with him.
Except he's a baby...and he doesn't do a lot of interacting.
So I find myself just waiting for him to go to sleep again so that I can go about my day.
And I found myself FEELING BAD ABOUT THIS.
Ugh, the guilt starts already.
So I googled "stimulating your newborn" and lo and behold...let the comparisons begin.
Apparently everyone, everywhere thinks their baby is the greatest thing in the world and does not find their newborn as boring as I find mine and DOES THINGS WITH THEIR BABY instead of just wish they were sleeping more.
Like play games with flashcards, try to put things in their hands and have them grasp them, sing to them, talk to them etc etc. The list goes on and on.
I find if I sit around trying to stimulate my baby all day I never get anything else done.
I talk to my baby but it's more like "What's the matter baby? Hungry again?" Etc etc. I've also attempted to put things in front of his face or in his hand, but come on, he's 4 weeks old...and I think adjusted he's only 2 weeks old. He accidentally grabs my hair, he does not purposefully grab anything else yet.
AND I'M OK WITH THIS.
I find that things like baby grabbing things and baby becoming interested in things visually should sort of happen on it's own. When he IS looking at me I make sure to talk to him, but if he's happily staring at the side of his pack n' play I don't find the urge to go pick him up and "stimulate" him.
Nor does my husband...at least we're on the same page in our parenting style.
Is that wrong? Isn't the side of his pack n' play stimulating enough? Should I be doing more with him now?
I found myself feeling bad that I wasn't "doing" more with my baby from one Google.
I HAD NO IDEA.
So, in a nutshell, it's really REALLY easy to feel like your parenting style is "less than" other parenting styles. And I'm sure it only gets worse from here.
Ugh, Welcome to Parenthood Jesica.
What does everyone else do with their newborns???