I can safely say that I let my kid get away with some stuff that I shouldn't...and that I swore I wouldn't.
I rationalize it all away by saying I'll be more strict when he can understand me/communicate with me and when I'm all alone it makes it easier so I'm doing it!
But as we've hit toddlerhood we're beginning to discover that my husband I disagree on how strict we should be with rules at this young age. I, being of the mind that we need rules now but letting him get away with some things now that we wouldn't when he's older is ok.
My husband believes that rules are rules and he needs to adhere to them...regardless of his age.
Some of the things we don't agree on?
I let him eat walking around/playing. He doesn't like to be in the high chair for any extended period of time these days and while I insist on breakfast and dinner at least starting out in the high chair, I sort of let lunch slide and I feed him while he plays. He's still pretty small weight-wise and I find he'll eat more if he's not confined. I REALLY don't want to continue doing this and I've vowed to quit by the time he's 2...but for now it works. My husband thinks he should eat his meals in his chair and if he doesn't eat...then he doesn't eat.
My husband doesn't have to live with Screamy McCrankypants if he doesn't eat...which is what happens when kids don't eat! So generally we do things my way =)
He's getting really good at his baby signs which is helping IMMENSELY. He can now tell me when he's done and when he wants more and we've begun to...ahem...compromise with him regarding how much he has to eat before he gets down.
Another food arguement?
I don't force him to eat anything. I give him choices...probably too many choices. If he doesn't want to eat the first thing I present to him for dinner then I give him another option. I never EVER had to eat something for dinner that I didn't want to eat, so I have a lot of trouble forcing him to eat something he doesn't want to eat.
My husband is of a very very different opinion in which he thinks he needs to eat the food that's presented to him. Period.
Every once in awhile, usually when he's super tired he has an epic meltdown in the tub and wants out IMMEDIATELY after getting in. My way to deal with it? Let him get out of the tub. Even if he was older and could talk I wouldn't force him to take a bath if he was having a meltdown. If he started doing it EVERY night? Different story and he'd probably get forced into a bath, but once?
My husband disagrees with me and wants to nip the tantrum in the bud, not wanting him to think he can get away with things just by screaming and makes him stay in the bath until he quits crying (which doesn't happen he just keeps crying until mama saves him!)
Things my husband does that I don't agree with?
He lets him get on the coffee table and he lets him play with screwdrivers. Sigh.
These are just a few things that we disagree on when it comes to rules/discipline. We agree on the rules that we ultimately want our child to follow and the manners we want him to possess but disagree on how to get there.
It's all a learning game, I guess we'll see what happens in a few years.
How has everyone else started dealing with rules/discipline? Are you super strict starting super young? Or do you let things slide now that you plan on being strict about later?